Jim Fay is a genius.
I knew it the first day I student-taught. A kid stormed into the classroom in the middle of my lesson and began cussing. His face looked like tears had freshened it. He carried his button down and wore only his bloodied, formerly white tee. He strutted so that no one would guess he was injured.
And I, only about four years older than he, used Love and Logic on him.
And it worked!
I don't remember exactly what I said, but I remember after giving him two choices that he calmed down instantly. The class calmed.
I was the teen whisperer. At least for that moment.
It was sooooo cool.
Teacher preparation in college makes one learn a lot of useless information that can never be used in the real world. Nonsense is thrown at us in the form of pedagogy and psychology and philosophy, and we're supposed to swallow it whole--and never use it.
Over the years, I used Love and Logic with my students, and it worked every single time. I always gave a packet of one-liners and other basics to my student teachers. Using strategies on kids who drove other people nuts actually became rather fun. I loved getting to know the real person and not the persona.
If you're a teacher or parent of a teen reading this, I urge you to read more about it and use it. It's classroom magic.
Here is a link to articles that help you use Love and Logic in your life.